Tuesday, March 18, 2008

People in our Lives

I got this as an email forward. Really liked it, so here it goes:-

"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person..
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Sunday, March 16, 2008


My friends have been telling me that i have not been writing since long and I, thus, decide to write on something i have been thinking of quite a long time and that is, INSENSITIVITY. Time has been kind enough to show me this aspect of the world and people around really soon or was that just in time? Dunno, but yes I know this aspect now. Just a few days back, I was going with my friend on a scooty and just when I crossed the college gate, and was about to cross the road, I heard some guys hooting and shouting loudly. There was a huge bus coming from the opposite side, I lost balance, I was about to fall, there was a man behind our scooty whom I almost hit while getting back and trying to save us from the bus and all I could hear was people rolling in laughter because they, probably, saw some very hilarious sight. Guys making comments on girls is very common, and I was not even surprised on this but what left me flabbergasted was the reaction I got when two of their own "friends" were almost killed by a bus. I just wanna know one thing from all the people reading this (and not only the ones who were hooting that day) that would you have done the same thing if the girl on the scooty was your sister/mother/wife/girlfriend? You would have probably picked up a fight with the guys who would have done that. Isn't it? But when it comes to two girls who are related to you only as batchmates, you do this.

Then I have to talk about classes, we have professors, all of us who study have them, nothing new in it but the professors I am talking about here are the ones who are qualified, who have an enormous amount of experience behind them, who were there on high posts before they retired from their jobs, they were heads of departments, they were directors and CEOs, they take lots and lots of pains to prepare for classes and teach us, they have experience written all over them and if you actually listen to them, you will find how much they know and how much you can learn from them and then come the classes... You have a professor of such a stature teaching and there are people who are using their laptops to watch movies, to listen to songs, they are throwing paper balls at each other, they are chatting at the top of their voices, there are proxies of people who are not attending the class, there are people who are entering the class from the back door after an hour and get their attendance. After seeing all of this, people sleeping in the class and using cellphones to message just becomes acceptable. And I used to think of it as derogatory to the faculty. Where has the sensitivity and respect for teachers gone? And yes, the students don't do all of this in the classes of the faculties who they hate, who they cannot stand, who they call names, who are partial, who have no transparency in the grades they are giving to the students, etc. And in the classes of such faculties, people are wide awake, cellphones in the bags, pin-drop silence and at their best behavior. So, does it take a person to be really bad to command all that he deserves in the class?

Same holds true for all the ppts that are made in the classes. Nobody, not a single soul is listening, why? Because they think that its just cool not to listen in the class. And when you ask them not to do such thins, what they say is you should have sat on the first bench, anything after the bench will welcome you with world-class misbehavior. Now, my question again is if you are in the class, are you not supposed to listen irrespective of the place of bench where you are sitting. Classroom is a place where you study. Now, whether or not you have to study is a choice that you make but who gave you the right to disturb others who have actually come to listen and pay attention?

Then there are people who are talking at the top of their voices on the cellphones outside rooms, in public places, in cinema halls, in plays, who don't keep their cellphones on silent when it is required, who play loud blaring music in the middle of the night without any occasion and in the hostels where it is not required.

And then there are those who have the guts to make fun of you when you actually go and ask them to be reduce the volume a little, to lower down their voices, and be a little sensitive. There are those who trademark you with your words of "How Insensitive?". People laugh and have their share of fun but what they don't realize is that this is the legacy that we are leaving for our future. It is painful when you are at the receiving end. Many of those who do all the above mentioned things have been at the receiving end and I know that but what surprises me is that they are not affected by any of these things. And it also bothers me to know that they have lost their sense of sensitivity completely. Immaturity, insensitivity, all these things will lead to nothing but a world of inhumane humanity.